I know people are going to think I’m exaggerating what I’m about to say but turning thirty changed my outlook on social media completely. Myspace was my social media introduction like most. Even all the way back in 2007 social media was a problem for me. The person was involved with (my oldest daughters father) hated my top 10 and all my photos. After him and I split his new girlfriend used social media as a means to harass and bother me even though I had clearly moved on with my life.
After that debacle, I jumped on facebook and again I started running into problems. The first thing was my boyfriend at that time was mad at me cause I didn’t post pictures of us. I will say I did have pictures of other guys I dated previously but he knew why I didn’t post pictures and still got offended. Right after that came his online fan club of ex’s who just couldn’t let go. Then I fell into the trap of venting all my business to the world.
Now we’re in the Instagram age and nothing has changed. If you’re not starting the drama someone is trying to drag you into it. People swear that every meme you post has something to do with them cause their conscience eats them alive. People have always stolen pictures and now they take your kids pics. People who want to hurt others use their online presence to intimidate or slander people.
So many people are losing marriages and families because they can’t fight off the temptation social media can bring. My conclusion is if it’s not making me money I don’t need it honestly. I mean really how happy are you if you post every damn thing you do? When I’m having fun for real I don’t think about taking pictures. I laugh so hard with the homies I forget I have my phone.
All I know is I’m about to embark on the biggest and best chapter of my life and it will be a quieter time in my life. A new city new state and eventually I plan to live overseas. I have no intention of sharing the majority of it. I’m sure I’ll want to share some of it but as far as living on social media like I once did I’m done with that.
I guess I’ve gotten to a place of just wanting my privacy. I want my kids, my life, my man all too myself. I really don’t want him on social media but hey that’s something you can’t really force on people. I love to keep up with friends and family but that’s it the foolishness has got to go.
I realize that I’m not here to prove anything or be any one’s entertainment. I have a purpose and 4 little people GOD let me borrow and they’re only children once. I am and will be the most stable thing in their lives and that’s important. So as far as social media goes I’ll be on my business accounts but its time to take a few step back from the personal ones. After my move, I’ll probably fall completely off the face of the earth. I just really want to focus on my family and making our memories all our own!